Hey Guys,

So My family and I moved away from Kaua'i to Mercer Island, Washington. I met a lot of cool people at my school, and I'm doing two sports badminton and volleyball. I have to admit, the coach is weird as f**k. He doesn't make any decisions based on our abilitys, like I'm terrible at both sports and I ended up on Varsity. So my friend in class comes up to me and says "Alex, you know your only on the team because you have a nice ass"... Ya, so how do I deal with this? It's not just me who feels this way, it's the whole team who is creeped out by our coaches decisions based on his sexual ideas...

Talk to the principal at school. This is a extremely serious matter with potential legal consequences. 

It is important that you do not stay quiet.

 

Talk to someone who you trust, a parent/guardian, a teacher who you trust, or go to the top of the school.

 

Issues like this are unbelievably serious, voice your concern.

 

Could have guesses Ineseri would have ninja'd me!

Edited March 21, 201511 yr by 169Gaming

Talk to your parents and report this to the Police with their supervision. Then have the Police come up to the school and let them investigate further and get the issue resolved. Seriously.

Hey guys, I would tell the principle, but I'm not sure there is any solid evidence. Plus the assistant coach is the security guard ...

Security guards have no legal power whatsoever, so he can't really do anything. You should gather testimonies of different persons and then send them altogether to the principle. If enough people are voicing their concern, there will be consequences, an investigation and all that.

Security guards have no legal power whatsoever, so he can't really do anything. You should gather testimonies of different persons and then send them altogether to the principle. If enough people are voicing their concern, there will be consequences, an investigation and all that.

I'm just not sure that would do anything, the MIPD is super corrupt. I know something would happen, I just don't want anything to happen to me

Talk to your parents and talk to the principal, however don't accuse the coach of being anything just express your concern (and maybe that you and others don't feel comfortable) to the principal. I don't really know much about who works in US schools but if there's any on site Councillor or student welfare staff you could try talking to them. The big thing is to not stay quiet!  

Like others have said try with the principal, but if anything gets out of hand try with the police.

This kinda falls under the sexual harassment area so it's very important that the school systems knows as well as law enforcement. It's better to voice your concerns then to keep them to yourself. As everyone else has said....tell your school's administration.

Unless he actually said something to you, touched you, or actually done something to sexually harass you personally, I don't believe that there is any reason to claim any kind of harassment yet. Now I'm not saying that he definitely has the best intentions, but something to consider here is the fact that you could potentially ruin his career and his life. My suggestion is that you and your friends from the team bring it up to him before you bring in someone from the outside. Get his side of the story and give him a chance to explain himself and why he does what he does. If he doesn't clean up his act, then by all means go to someone else and make them aware of the situation. I'm not you, so I don't know everything that is going on, and quite frankly neither does anyone else on here, but I think it's definitely worth taking the time to talk to him first and try and settle this in house, especially since it appears as though everyone is running off of suspicion and assumption of what his intentions are rather than something that he has physically done to someone. Nowadays, it is too easy for someone to cry wolf and ruin someone's life, whether they are innocent or not. 

Alright, I'm gonna go against what most has said here so far. Sorry if I sound aggressive, but this stuff pisses me off to no end.

 

It doesn't sound like you have any definitive proof whatsoever, other than the fact that someone told you that you were only on the team because you "have a nice ass" and the creepy vibes that he supposedly gives off. Now, if he had told you personally that you "have a nice ass," then yeah, obviously report him. However, as it stands, you're just making baseless accusations....accusations that can effectively ruin someone's life, even if he is innocent. I just hope that you are aware at how serious calling someone a pedophile is, especially a school employee. This isn't stuff that you just carelessly throw around.

 

Now, let me pose a question for you. Lets say you see someone at a major U.S. airport that gave you a suspicious vibe, even though he has done nothing but make a few phone calls. Would you go yell, "THAT GUY'S A TERRORIST AND HAS A BOMB?" Sounds pretty ridiculous, yeah? Well, that is exactly what you are doing here.

 

Until you have legitimate proof that your coach is a pedophile, don't go around saying crap like this. It is very dangerous and can be very damaging. So what can you do in the meantime? Trust your instincts and be weary of him, but as far as reporting him, try to find some actual evidence first before ruining his life. 

Edited March 21, 201511 yr by LtCarman

I don't think that you should base your view of the coach off of some speculation made by your friend. You may think you're bad, but you may actually be a good player in his eyes. I wouldn't go assuming he's a pedo.

Alright, I'm gonna go against what most has said here so far. Sorry if I sound aggressive, but this stuff pisses me off to no end.

 

It doesn't sound like you have any definitive proof whatsoever, other than the fact that someone told you that you were only on the team because you "have a nice ass" and the creepy vibes that he supposedly gives off. Now, if he had told you personally that you "have a nice ass," then yeah, obviously report him. However, as it stands, you're just making baseless accusations....accusations that can effectively ruin someone's life, even if he is innocent. I just hope that you are aware at how serious calling someone a pedophile is, especially a school employee. This isn't stuff that you just carelessly throw around.

 

Now, let me pose a question for you. Lets say you see someone at a major U.S. airport that gave you a suspicious vibe, even though he has done nothing but make a few phone calls. Would you go yell, "THAT GUY'S A TERRORIST AND HAS A BOMB?" Sounds pretty ridiculous, yeah? Well, that is exactly what you are doing here.

 

Until you have legitimate proof that your coach is a pedophile, don't go around saying crap like this. It is very dangerous and can be very damaging. So what can you do in the meantime? Trust your instincts and be weary of him, but as far as reporting him, try to find some actual evidence first before ruining his life. 

I completely agree. Until something actually happens I wouldn't make a problem out of a situation that could be being completely misinterpreted. 

Okay, but it is pretty clear that he is making decisions that way. There was a situation with him last year of "accidentally" showing nude pictures on the smart board. Plus his decisions on players is honestly terrible, and if you see the figures of people on varsity and JV, versus C team you would know what I mean. It's pretty obvious, he's also apparently made sexual remarks a while back about liking jewish girls... I don't know what to do, it makes me feel weird.

I would still speak to a school administrator, particularly the principal.

If you don't feel comfortable about reaching out, then I would simply get off of the team. You may enjoy the sport, but there's no point in playing if you can't enjoy it due to other factors involved.

Have you talked to your parents? I suggest doing that first, they may have some good feedback on what to do next.

 

Next thing: You say he 'accidentally' showed nude pictures at school. Is administration aware of this? Are you happy with the response?

 

With the 'jewish girls' remark, where did you hear this from? Firsthand? From someone else? If it's someone else, does it sound like it has any truth to it? Is it someone you trust who told you, or does it sound like a rumor? If it was firsthand, who else knows about it?

 

Has he had any complaints filed with administration before? Are you aware of any other incidents?

 

 

And, lastly, but probably most important. Sorry to be a little bit awkward here, but the situation in itself is awkward. Have you seen him 'looking' at people? If so, are you sure? Could it have possibly been just a coincidence?

 

 

 

 

I'd say continue to watch him, but don't draw attention to yourself. By all means talk to your parents. Observe him with an open mind, it won't work well if you approach it with a biased mindset that he is guilty.

 

 

 

 

I hope you can work this out.

Regardless of the circumstances you should NEVER feel sexually uncomfortable around a school teacher. Even if you have no solid proof or evidence, report it to your parents and school counselor or administrator. Tell them that you feel very uncomfortable at the way this teacher has been acting, and if they could stay in touch with yu in the meantime.

If he touches you at ALL, report it immediately. But in order for it to hold water, you will have needed to initially report that yu feel uncomfortable around him.

Edit: And honestly, something else you could do is talk to the teacher himself. Tell him how you feel in a respectful, kind manner. Tell him that you feel he can be very inappropriate at times and that you would appreciate it if he could try to work on being appropriate. Seriously, you could talk to him yourself. Maybe send him an email, pull him away from the rest of the class for a minute, even request to talk to him with your counselor present, after you've explained the situation to your counselor.

Edited March 21, 201511 yr by CriminalKillaz

Everyone feels uncomfortable, not just me

Edit: And honestly, something else you could do is talk to the teacher himself. Tell him how you feel in a respectful, kind manner. Tell him that you feel he can be very inappropriate at times and that you would appreciate it if he could try to work on being appropriate. 

"Sir, did you include me in the team because of my ass? 'Cause I think so". Probably speaking to him directly is not an option. I'd tell everything to my parents and let them deal with the problem.