I would say it depends.

 

If you feel that your relationship was going strong & you both had good chemistry & such, & suddenly this happens, then sit down with her, ask her why dafuq did she do that & tell her how you feel about it. Don't make it too small a issue, but don't blow your very good relationship because of it (assuming it was a very good relationship).

Hopefully you may be able to salvage it, & understand why she feel the need to "do" that other man, who he was, how they met, why she did it. & hopefully you both will change so that she won't be able to have a reason to do that kind (or any kind) of cheating anymore.

 

If you feel that your relationship was already weak, or you both were growing apart, having fights, or such. Then yeah, dump her & move on.  If you're ready, find another Great gal & hopefully everything will go right this time!

 

Whichever route it is. I wish you Good Luck

 

I just don't like that nowadays, if someone cheats on you, then you just give-up & dump that relationship no matter what.

I mean, I'm not saying everyone who cheats is a Saint, but I'm sure some of them (ok, maybe a small number, but still, some of them) really really regret it & those type of people should be given another chance.

Well, first of all, only a couple answers were ACTUALLY mature, been there, sucks, but it makes you stronger emotionally unless you let it go to you're head, "Did I do something that could have made her do this" don't think that, you'll just drive yourself nuts, don't go and destroy her stuff, don't run her over, don't do anything to her, you caught her, & I'm sure the guilt is enough, knowing she got caught in the bed you shared with her screwing another guy, it all depends how much you care about her, if you were to give her another chance, it'd be one of those trust things going on "who are you texting" "Where are you going & who are you going with" sometimes it's best to let it be, but it's your life, do not let it screw with you, or it could screw up your next relationship.

 

I caught the girl I'm with right now of 2 years, she told some guy that she was single, she just wanted some "fun", while we were in a relationship, I found out about it & actually prevented something from happening, it was weird, I'm not the type of person to go rooting through anyone's personals stuff, but the one time she left her facebook open, I clicked a random message and everything he & her were saying to one another I was like WHAT...THE... FUCK...., she did deny it, until I told her to open her facebook, than she fell apart and spilled the beans, sex is great, always has been, we bicker quite a bit, but it all worked out, it will for you too, keep you're head up!

Simple as eating, you already did oone good choice.. kick her out. bäm

If she is already cheating on you since 3 years, is that a fact that she dont want you anymore. So forget her, (easy to say, i know) give it time.

 

Some facts that perhaps helps to forget her.

 

- 3 years of cheating

- she never tried in these 3 years to give you a chance or to explain her self what she is feeling

- dont think every again to win her back, she already cheated on you she will do it again

 

Take your time, meet some friends, talk to people you can trust and give this process his time

 

PS.: @Rich Sobilio; XBR410; Fartknockr fuck you guys with your absolut idiotic advices

honestly brother no advice given will dull your pain, it takes time. do things to keep your mind busy go hang out with old friends and make new friends check out some concerts and do some patrols. its never an easy get-over when these happens and if you need to cry it out allow yourself to grieve butdont let those emotions of hurt and pain turn to rage and anger be smart and dont slip up! Be safe out there.

 

 

"Service of the state". 

Simple as eating, you already did oone good choice.. kick her out. bäm

If she is already cheating on you since 3 years, is that a fact that she dont want you anymore. So forget her, (easy to say, i know) give it time.

 

Some facts that perhaps helps to forget her.

 

- 3 years of cheating

- she never tried in these 3 years to give you a chance or to explain her self what she is feeling

- dont think every again to win her back, she already cheated on you she will do it again

 

Take your time, meet some friends, talk to people you can trust and give this process his time

 

PS.: @Rich Sobilio; XBR410; Fartknockr fuck you guys with your absolut idiotic advices

There was no need of that kind of reaction, just as mature as some of the other responses..

 

On a side note, sounds to me like you got burned pretty bad from a passed relationship.

There was no need of that kind of reaction, just as mature as some of the other responses..

 

On a side note, sounds to me like you got burned pretty bad from a passed relationship.

 

(On a side note, sounds to me like you got burned pretty bad from a passed relationship.)

What is it what you read that give you that feeling?

(On a side note, sounds to me like you got burned pretty bad from a passed relationship.)

What is it what you read that give you that feeling?

What wouldn't give me that feeling from that post?

Dude seem like a very good guy. Don't go back and put yourself back into her crap she doesn't care about you. Go take some time to heel, because if you take her back or move on without healing you will become paranoid hence what she has done to you. Just don't have a woman right now in your space be single party and make money. In a few months she will be looking for you I promise I been there done that.

Listen to Blues Travelers "Alone", that will help you.  About a dude whom lost his woman, and the guy tries to rationalize it and goes through the different levels of mourning the loss and rationalizing the reasons.

 

Starts with the soft melody of pain, then it grows and builds into sorrow.  The song then gets heavy with the main verses, that bring you to the realization of anger and rage.  Then the song settles down to the sweet quite melody of loss, and then acceptance.   

 

As in real life, these are the emotions that bring acceptance and growth and are the steps/levels of emotions that you feel when loss is upon your heart and soul.

 

Good luck buddy,

 

DrDetroit

Edited December 19, 201312 yr by drdetroit